Claim Your Independence

Can a Codependent really be free? What does a codependent need independence from? Don’t get me started… there’s a lot to be set free from, especially if you’re new to recovery.

For many women codependents  - what they most need independence from is fear and limiting beliefs. They need freedom from the fear to fight for what they want and freedom from their denial and the “shoulds” in their life.

            What I offer you today are suggestions and ideas to help you Claim Your Independence and win the battle in your mind that tells you you’re stuck forever.

 7 Steps

       1. Decide who you are and be that person NOW.
                  Don’t rely on others observations of you. They haven’t/aren’t living your life.                   Define yourself with your values and be what you’ve defined. Seek, through scripture, 
                      what God says about who you are.

2. Surround yourself with people who validate you. 

           Spend your time with people who make you feel proud to be who you are. Choose                    to be with people who see, hear, and understand you.  If your family doesn’t “get                     you,” love and accept them anyway and be polite when you’re with them.

       3. Own the good things about you.
            Get to know and value what others see and value in you. 
            (How about asking some of them?)  
             That’s how you’ll grow what’s naturally good in you. You can’t share or give what you don’t
             truly own. Before I found my own independence, feeling free to be who I am was scary.
             Once I decided to be who I am, surround myself with people who “get me” (not everyone
             “gets me” still), and learn what I have to offer – I discovered that living free is possible
              and it feels good!
          4. Get to know what to fight for.
               What do you need that you do not yet have? Respect, validation, understanding, to be
               listened to, etc. ?
         5. Daily practice and attend to building your faith and belief in God’s power to
               help you Recovery.

          6. Find a group, seminar or coaching circle where you’ll have the opportunity to learn

               and build a team to support you.

 7. Get a coach to help you see things you may not be aware of and help you keep moving toward freedom.

As you celebrate today and all it means to our country, I invite you to consider and reflect on some of the things I’ve shared today and take this opportunity to declare that today is Your Independence Day too!
Which Step do you need to take?
Go ahead, celebrate today! Go ahead start to claim your independence today!
Take the time to acknowledge all the good things in your life, your country, your independence.
Please, let me know if this is helpful. Pass it on to a codependent friend. THANKS

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